Dawn_Renee,
It's pretty easy to tell that you and your friends are frustrated, and I certainly understand how hard it must be for you to use your forum the way you would like. Nobody likes to wait for a slowly loading or badly performing site, least of all those responsible for maintaining it.
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Wouldn't you be annoyed with this kind of problem and then couldn't get a hold of anyone at Dreamhost to correct the problem? Think about it. ;)
I would be *very* annoyed, and I would begin an intensive investigation as to why my site is having the problem. I'd lose the "weighty" animated gifs from the front page, I'd index my MySQL tables, I'd beat the vBulletin forums to death looking for ways to optimize the software's performance, I'd investigate caching as much as possible, etc. I'd enlist some knowledgeable help if I didn't have the skills to determine the source of the problem myself.
I'd regularly monitor my server's load from the shell, to determine if the server's loading *is* or *is not* likely to be part of the problem.
Only when I was completely convinced that I had done all I could do would I even contact my host's tech support people, and then I'd be asking for *help* (instead of "demanding" they put me on a different server because I was convinced all my problems were the result of the host's "overselling"). I would not "unleash the dogs of war" on my host's customer-to-customer forums (solicit on my forum for members to help me "against Dreamhost") complaining. If I had conducted my research thoroughly and completely, was convinced the host was at fault, and worked with the host to resolve the issue, but it became clear it would not be resolved to my satisfaction, I'd find a new host. A concerted "drive-by bashing" of an associated business whose service I was unhappy with is almost as childish as it is ineffective.
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We would not be at this forum if Dreamhost was doing their job. :)
I also would not be so arrogant to assume that is "their job" to make my site run "fast" - I'd ask for their help in determining the source of the problem, rather than "invading" their forum with my whining.
Okay, whining might seem harsh, but how else is one to interpret someone complaining about the speed with which their site loads when the site's opening page has two large (not in dimensions, in filesize) aninmated gifs?
--rlparker